By Terrance Turner
May 6, 2022
The following story contains frank discussion of child abuse. Viewer discretion is advised.
Controversial YouTuber and self-proclaimed “image consultant” Kevin Samuels has died at 56.
The Atlanta Police Department said officers were called to an apartment on East Paces Ferry Road NE on Thursday morning “regarding a person injured.” By the time police arrived, first responders were performing CPR on an unresponsive man later identified as Samuels. A woman in the apartment told officers that Samuels had complained about chest pain and that she attempted to help him but he fell, per the police report. The woman called 911.
Samuels was taken to Piedmont Hospital, police said, but later died. His mother, Beverly Samuels-Burch, confirmed his death to NBC News this morning. She said she learned of her son’s death from social media.
“That was a terrible thing for social media to put that out. I didn’t even know. I hadn’t even been notified,” she said in a phone call on Friday. “All I’m doing is requesting that people pray for us.”
News of Samuels’ death rippled across social media Thursday night; he was trending at No. 1 for hours that evening as people engaged in heated debates over his often-problematic advice. While many commenters chided Twitter users for “celebrating” his demise, others pointed out that they have no obligation to mourn a man with a history of misogynistic comments.
Samuels often dispensed relationship advice in a series of YouTube videos on his channel, which boasted 1.4 million subscribers. But he frequently came under fire for advice that was seen as insulting and misogynistic towards Black women. In one video, he tells a woman seeking dating advice that “you’re average-looking at best” and that, if she can’t settle for an average guy, “you’re gonna die alone.” Just last month, he posted a video saying that unmarried women over 35 are “leftover”.
“If you have made it to 35 and you are unmarried, you are a leftover woman,” Samuels said. “You are what is left. Men know that there is something likely wrong with you. Whether you want to hear it or not, I’m going to go there with you. I’m telling you the truth that you don’t want to hear. Men know that there is likely something wrong with you—that you can not be an adjustable six or higher—35 and unmarried — something is wrong with you. That’s where men automatically come with it.
And here’s the thing—when you were between the ages of 22 and 25 and you didn’t want to settle—you were trying to get the CEO, the pilot, the investment banker, you were trying to get ‘flewed out’…here’s what’s gonna happen. If you are a woman 35-plus and you want a man who’s one the same lifestyle, you’re gonna have to share him.”
Samuels then asked some woman, “What do you think about sharing a man?” to which she responded, “I’m OK with that, because, if they’re going to mess around with other females, I’m going to do what I want to do, too.”
“No, no, that’s not how that works—you share your man and sit your a– down,” Samuels responded, according to NewsOne.
Worse yet, Samuels also suggested that women shouldn’t believe their children who come forward about being abused. In one of his videos, he rhetorically asks a mother what she would do if her daughter said she had been “touched” or ogled by her father or stepfather. The woman answered that “the relationship would have to end” and that she would believe her child.
“Why would you not question your child?” Samuels asked. “Why would you not question your daughter? Why would you not just say, ‘Girl, whatever. That’s your daddy.’ Why would you blow up a marriage? Why would you just believe her? Children lie.”
NOTE: According to the Neal Davis Law Firm, the vast majority of child sexual abuse allegations are true. Even when false claims are made, it is usually by an adult trying to gain leverage in a divorce or custody battle — not a child telling her mother about abuse by a father or stepfather.
According to the National Leadership Council on Child Abuse, researchers in 1989 found an estimated rate of false allegations that fell between 4.7 to 7.6% of all child and adolescent reports. A 1992 review of literature revealed that false allegations of sexual abuse are uncommon, numbering between 2 and 8 percent of referrals to child abuse clinics and 6 percent of emergency room referrals. A 2000 study in Denver found just 1.5% of allegations were false.
According to the D.C. Children’s Advocacy Center, 1 in 10 children will experience sexual abuse before their 18th birthday. If you suspect your child is being abused, please call the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453.